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Anya sat waiting for the scene to be called by the director. As she sat, she felt the familiar heavy weight on her chest. It was like a wild animal that slunk in and weighed heavily on her every time she had to perform. When rehearsing her character, she was able to let go, connect […]

But consider this: if you did book a job tomorrow, what would you do differently? Would you finally email that agent you’ve been meaning to reach out to? Would you show up to class with more excitement and openness? Would you start enjoying the craft more, knowing that your hard work had paid off?

Now ask yourself: what beliefs would need to change for you to act as if you’ve already succeeded? Maybe it’s the belief that “I’m not good enough” or “Success is only for others.” What would happen if you experimented with behaving as though you’d already booked the job?

As an acting coach, I recently facilitated an online workshop for actors focused on embodied process. During the session, one of the participants shared a fascinating insight from a Q&A she attended with casting directors. What stuck with her most? The casting directors revealed they often choose actors who simply play themselves.

Don’t be afraid to take risks, in art, the moments that resonate are the ones where you put yourself out there, where you’re vulnerable, where you make mistakes. That’s where real beauty and truth come from (Jessica Chastain). Here are 7 acting tips I share with you as a coach and therapist for actors, to support you to be more vulnerable in your acting.

So lets face it, some people are just plain difficult. They may have a reputation for it. They likely have already been challenged on it. They’re probably not going to change any time soon. 

Of course if they’re behaving in a truly toxic way then I’m not suggesting you should put up with it. Better to call it out and walk away. 

If not, then here are a few tips from an acting coach and therapist  to help you deal with these types of people.

Acting feels like what you’re meant to be doing on this planet. It sets your soul ablaze and puts you in your happy place. When you act you feel like you’re in ‘flow’ state. You adore interpreting and creating characters and telling a story.

Well, most of the time.

At other times you feel down-hearted and dejected. You know you have more potential within you then you’re able to express. You feel stuck and helpless when you get the same old critique from teachers. The same old rejections from self-tape submissions.

That’s when therapy which is targeted and tailor-made for artists can help. By therapy I don’t mean CBT which mostly just tackles unhelpful thinking. Acting is holistic and we need a holistic therapy that works with body, emotions and mind.

There is always a relationship between two polarised views.  Fritz Perls, one of the founders of Gestalt Therapy learned about the ‘zero point’ from Friedlander in the 1920s. This is the idea that opposites are in relationship to each other. The zero point is the middle way between two polarised positions. 
Through skilful facilitation of dialogue, we can reach a point of commonality and understanding within our differences. In facilitating dialogue I promote a ‘both/and’ rather than ‘either/or’ perspective.

Working with a therapist-coach you get the best of both worlds. You get to work on present goals and develop specific plans to move your life forwards. But,  when you get get stuck on the actioning part, which is often the case, you get to do a therapeutic deep-dive into the past.
And you feel safe to do that because you know I’m a trained therapist who has many years of experience working with very traumatised clients.

When adult Nick finds a job he can do well, the little part ties itself to the job. It feels better because it’s performing well. This is how Nick and other high achievers link their entire sense of identity and worth to doing extremely well professionally or in whatever area of life they are achieving highly. 

The problem arises when ….

I contact the feelings of  grief, loneliness and  resentment that were out of my awareness. I need to access these in order to process them. Having access to them also lets me have more depth and range when acting. By plucking up the courage to take this detour and spend time with your pain, you too give yourself the opportunity to not only heal but to make your acting more ‘real’ and ‘true’.